How do You Cope with the Suck That is Work?

There was a rather thought provoking comment posted a few days ago (Full comment is here: . I thought I would feature it as a post to see how other INFPs deal with working life.

“The problem is how do infps adapt to the work environment when at times corporate culture seems the very antithesis of what infps are about? Do you just do it for your family? Do you have to see a way this helps you get where you really want further down the line? How do we use our natural strengths and talents to succeed in the workplace? How do you quickly recharge to be able to invest so much time and energy to pay your bills and have the energy to work in the areas that are really important to you?”

Let Crystal know you deal with working in the comment section below.

3 thoughts on “How do You Cope with the Suck That is Work?”

  1. Nice idea Mike. And yes, a very good question Crystal and not one easily answered by a long shot. For me, I’ve developed a strategy of sorts or a “Master Plan” if you will.

    I think the thing is to recognise your strengths. Find a dream and pursue it and when you get there and maybe it isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be, find a new dream. That’s the idealism coming out in me but so what? Who ever said being idealistic was a bad thing? A lot of more cautious people out there have tried to shoot down my proposed dreams and the end of the day, it’s not their problem if I succeed or fail. It’s my right to discover that on my own.

    So my plan is to have a dream and that dream is to write for me. You personally, you may have something else and that’s fine, whatever works. As an INFP I feel writing is the best way I can help this world we live in so that’s my goal. And then comes the tricky part: perseverance. Unfortunately that is not a strength for INFP’s. We get bored with ideas and change our minds a lot. The trick I learnt was to keep thinking of it in new ways and it keeps me interested and motivated to pursue it.

    But getting from this point to the dream point is the hard part and Mike I think, has answered it quite well. Take time out for yourself, learn to let go and step back no matter how much you care and are super frustrated and mad because of your dickish boss and their general annoyingness. Change your job if you’re bored or the people are horrible. Fit some exercise in before work if you can. That’s my personal tip because it helps me immensely just to feel better before I ever start the day and to distance myself from any upcoming drama. Recharging is hard but that I find, as well as a good night’s sleep, is the best way not to let work take over. It snatches back control and reminds you that your feelings are your own and not to be controlled by the working world.

    And lastly, just as Mike said, keep on hoping and believing. If you find a dream and decide to believe in it, as an INFP you should be up for the task of holding onto your faith in that dream.

    The corporate world sucks big time but none of us have to endure it forever. Work out your exit plan and make it happen. I believe in you and I know you can do it.

  2. First, the short answer: you just do.

    I’ll be honest though, most of my 20’s were spent agonizing over how terrible working is. All I wanted to do was make music, but I never had time because i was always working or exhausted. And no one understood.

    But the things that have made working professionally for over 10 years are:
    1) People. The work will probably always suck, but the people are what makes things bearable.
    2) Learning. Find a new job if you don’t feel challenged.
    3) Leaving a job every 3 years. It just so happens that my INFP brain gets bored after 3 years. So I find a new job (in the same field) and experience renewed excitement and more money. Don’t be too romantic and trust them. I’ve seen so many companies ax people who have been loyal to them all along.
    4) Hope. I find that having hope is the only thing keeping me going some days. When I was younger, it was hope that I would find the love of my life (check!), hope that I would find a way out of the rat race and find another way to make money. My big hope is still to find a way to make money where I could quit my job. When I lose those ideas, I start to feel a little bit more dead every day.
    5) Learn to take time for yourself. I’m still terrible at this. But getting time to relax is so crucially important to our health.
    6) Focus. If your goal is to be a writer, Keep it in mind always. Through every crappy job and every bad turn. It comes back to hope again.

    The other thing is that there are a lot of different avenues to explore in a career. Once you’re in it, you can snoop around for other similar jobs or somewhat related jobs that you might be able to do. .

    I also think that every job I’ve had has given me essential skills for eventually running my own business.

    Those are my thoughts off hand!


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