Waiter or Waitress

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  1. I thought I would make my own post about this topic since I’ve never heard of any other INFP’s (other than myself) that have more or less “settled” into the career of waiting / hospitality. Many people seem to believe that one must be a flamboyant extrovert in order to be a successful waiter; this is simply not true. I am generally quite reserved in my waiting, keep a warm, friendly, and supportive stance, to the guest that I take care of. I will make small talk but only after truly ‘feeling out’ my guest’ and evaluating his/her/their needs with my superior intuitive perception. My average tips are just as high as all the best that I work with.

    I find that this is a fulfilling career choice for me, and potentially many other INFP’s, because I get a good deal of satisfaction from taking care of my guest. Furthermore, being introverted, the flow of energy is from outside to inside; in busy restaurants huge volumes of energy is poured out there by my guest which I find to be most rejuvenating. Being a waiter is nothing like being at a party with crowds of people. At parties and other large social events, I often, like many introverts, feel “alone in the sea of faces.” Waiting tables is simply work. Sometimes, I will have that lone guest or a couple of guest that I just seem to click with in some way. This can lead to me briefly serving as a mediator to him/her/they which I get much fulfillment out of. In just about every place I’ve ever worked I’ve naturally filled that role among a considerable number of my coworkers. I suppose this is because I know how to “listen.”

    A successful waiter / waitress must always be a good listener to ensure guest satisfaction. Many extroverts have the stereotype of being less-than-stellar listeners. Even very extroverted must learn to adapt to listen a little to wait well if they are to stay in the field. INFP’s have a natural skill at perceiving a guest’s state and can thereby anticipate his / her / their needs well.

    Another positive for the INFP is that many restaurants are more or less unstructured compared to many other careers. I spent some time in Information Technology and I ultimately was undone there from mostly working in an overly structured and regulated role. I had to conform to a vast amount of growing protocol that was in my view inefficient and worsening. In most restaurants you are independent to handle your guest the way you wish. I can say hello to them in the friendly manner I wish. I need not work by a meticulous script designed for a drone. In general, as long as you keep the guest happy, it is ok in hospitality.

    There are problems with this field, however. One must learn to ground themselves enough to not forget orders or what they are doing to be a good waiter. Early on, this was a problem for me. I had to adapt to keep the focus on my guest. Also, I’m a team person – I like helping out. But when someone ask a favor, it can become easy to lose track of what you’re doing and forget something. These things must be adapted for, but it is my belief that the pros outweigh the cons. Money can pay quite well if you are in the right venue.


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