In February of 2014, I woke up from an emotional coma.
I was a Dad, a husband and an employee and not much else.
I was living the American Dream; kids, family, car, debt.
But I had forgotten how to be happy. I had forgotten how to have fun. I had forgotten how to feel.
In fact, in that 5-year period of marriage, I had cried exactly twice: once when my first son was born and once when my wife started working in the restaurant industry (because I had a strong feeling it would change everything).
Then one day I Googled “mind fuck.”
I wanted to see something that would bend my mind and open the doors of perception. But without drugs and just before the realm of two girls one cup and the human centipede (if you don’t know these things, do NOT Goolge them).
What I found instead was an article by Tony Robbins about beliefs…
I previously avoided Robbins like the plague because of his over-the-top persona, super-white teeth, fake-and-bake tan and seeming cult following (and presumed religious affiliation, which I now know he doesn’t have).
This article was life changing, but in a subtle way.
He reminded me that beliefs can change. And if we have beliefs that don’t serve us, we need to change them.
Whoa! Just what a guy in an emotional comma needed to hear!
Linked to that post was a free audio download with an intro to something he calls his “Hour of Power.”
The Hour of Power is HUGE. Yet it’s simple and effective. It’s a morning ritual that involves spending time with yourself and getting focused and centered on your mission and what your goals are, followed by visualizing them.
In the audio, he said things like “look deep down. Are you really happy?”
Ugh, sorry to admit it, but no Tony, I’m not.
“You give all of your time to others. But when do you get time for YOU??”
Oh my god Tony Robbins, are you a voodoo witch?!? How do you know my life and needs?!?
I immediately started walking every morning and spending time by myself to relax and enjoy life.
Along those lines, I present today’s challenge.
- Find 10 minutes per day to spend by yourself, preferably doing light exercise like walking.
- Setup a calendar reminder for a week and make sure to do it each day. Try to plan ahead to wake up early or do whatever you need to do in order to make this happen.
- While you’re walking, breathe. Feel the air on your skin. Be thankful that you’re alive and able to feel these things.
- Comment on the blog that you’re going to do it.
So easy and so transformative.
By doing this, I really had to rearrange my morning commute, but I went from 3k steps per day to 10k. And I lost 10 lbs just by adding in the extra activity.
So I wish you luck and hope you’ll join me.
Remember, this is all part of INFP Self-Love month. Loving yourself is a choice you can make and it starts with little things to prove your commitment to yourself. After you start continuously making similar decisions, your self-esteem skyrockets.
What better way to show yourself you care than by making some time to spend relaxing and listening to your thoughts.